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March 27th, 2010 at 12:24 am

Things are rolling along. Trying to keep an eye on our budget but with all these weddings coming up and the uncertainty of The Impulsive purchase I feel like giving up for a while. I cant get on a smooth routine with the finances and it stresses me out just trying.

Anyways- BB is doing really well with his job. He loves it and the team seems to love him. I think this will be his forever job.

My job is going really well too. I was getting a bit lazy at it and my boss kind of called me to task about 2 weeks ago by telling me to tighten up and then he also heaped a bunch of additional projects on me- the added responsibility and the sudden clearer understanding of what my boss expects of me made me step up in a way even I didn't think I was capable of.

I killed myself to learn how to do long processes in a shorter amount of time, learn how to do things I had never done before, and to finish my work with a polish that made the work appear that my boss did it himself. He was impressed with my sudden "abilities" and so was I! So I have kind of become second in command in the office as my boss has been leaning on me more and more- fine with me- job security.

Sometimes BB brings up the kid conversation. He wants to maybe make a baby this summer. I think I am finally ready to actually go through labor and make the sacrifices to raise a kid- but I feel like my job is finally turning into a career. My boss is being prepped to be a president of his department- and that would put me in a position to also move in a power type of role- and none of the jobs I have my eye on could be done by working part time.

I don't know. I generally get burned out on jobs around the 2 yr mark. I'm coming up on the 1 years mark- I should just wait another year and then I will probably feel ready to give up the working thing for the baby thing.

I need to stop worrying about the big picture and focus on the smaller stuff. Its the day to day finances that feels out of control. I need to get into a rhythm..even with all these weddings coming up.

4 Responses to “Job-Baby?”

  1. thriftorama Says:

    Babies are huge and life changing. I had a career before my baby, who will be two on Thursday. Now, my career is mostly dead and I am hanging on by a string. It's an uphill battle. People view you differently the minute you become a mother.

    I love my son very much and would jump in front of a bus for him, but that doesn't mean it isn't frustrating and difficult, and that I'm not mad that I can't be what I want to be out in the world.

  2. monkeymama Says:

    It probably isn't the worst idea to have a baby now. We had kids before we got very far in our careers. I have been able to keep my career, but we don't necessarily identify with "giving up the big income" or "giving up the careers" that most of our friends have. I just think it is a harder transition, the longer you wait. My dh stayed home before he really got started in any career.

    I suppose, the longer you stay at your job, the harder the whole thing will be.

  3. Homebody Says:

    Career, schmeer..... looking back, I wish I had not been worried about it, it sucked my energy and made me too tired to do some things I wish I had done when the girls were home. Now they are grown and it is too late. I don't remember great work moments, but I do remember great family moments. Just trying to give you another perspective. Not being critical of anyone's choices because if anything that is what "women's lib" gave us........choices!

    I am old enough to be your mother and maybe things have changed, but I felt incredible pressure to work after having children as if it was some sort of betrayal to stay home and parent. I hope you younger women don't feel that same pressure. I really hope things have changed and you can make choices that feel right to you.

  4. monkeymama Says:

    Homebody - I don't think things have changed. You of course know that my spouse stays home and I work. So I am constantly told that it is horrible that I work and it is horrible that my spouse stays home. Pretty much - you can't win. So who cares what anyone else thinks? No matter what you decide as a parent, it is one thing people are happy to make wide assumptions and judgements about. You can't let it get to you - there is absolutely no logic to it. It's probably easier for me to stand back and roll my eyes, since I have one foot planted firmly on both sides of the fence. (Working mom/Stay at home parent).

    Even if you are 100% content, you will feel tons of pressure to change your lifestyle. Just tune it out - the best advice I can give.

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