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October 12th, 2009 at 07:15 pm

BB and I are slowly evolving into a more comfortable place.

He is still in the market for a job since retiring from baseball. I say "in the market" because "looking" is the wrong word. He gave up after one solid day of craigslist looking. He has pinned all his hopes on an MLB job that was told to him in confidentiality that will open up once a whole long line of firings/rehirings happens that if 1 friend off BB's is hired for then he promises to hire BB. Sounds like a long shot. A super long shot.
Nothing like putting all your eggs in one basket there BB.

And we know nothing until the season ends in late October.

I have given up with the whole BB looking for a job thing. He's like a stone. Always has an answer for why he wont get hired/shouldnt apply for any job but this one that might/might not open up in a month.
Talking/writing about it gets me angry.

In the meantime BB has settled into being a very good house-husband. He runs all my errands for me and does an ok job keeping the house clean. And he is not costing a lot of money either. I must say having him around to take care of house stuff/chores has been great.

When I am not thinking of the goals, responcibilities and money aspect of everything- I am very comfortable having him home unemployed. It has been nice having dinner cooked and all that.

But I do hope to hear one way or another about this MLB job soon.

I am ready to be a real 2 income family for a little bit.

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6 Responses to “not much to report”

  1. homebody Says:
    October 12th, 2009 at 07:44 pm 1255376680
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    It is not that long until the end of baseball season. I would make it clear if this doesn't work out, he needs to get a plan. That is just me though, some women are comfortable with supporting their husband and his dreams. I would be to a point, but to me, you have already done your share of that. Hang in there a little longer and THEN get tough! If you did not want any advice, just blowing off steam, then ignore this entire message!

  2. baselle Says:
    October 12th, 2009 at 08:38 pm 1255379897
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    I think I'd be okay with a month or so of waiting, and thankful he's not begging you for money. I am worried that he is setting himself up a big letdown, and managing that possibility will be your first project, done before he starts applying for work. (Nothing like applying for a job with a chip on your shoulder)

    Put yourself in his shoes - unless he's the baseball equivalent of Bret Favre, there is the so-oh very sharp change and unknown in his life. He was a baseball player since little boyhood, and now he's not. Its really a rare person who can handle that type of change smoothly without missing a beat.

  3. monkeymama Says:
    October 12th, 2009 at 08:38 pm 1255379924
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    Agreed with Homebody, to an extent.

    I think a lot of people assume *I* support my husband. But he has contributed a LOT financially to our marriage. & watching the children has saved us significants amount of money. But, I'd personally have little patience for a spouse that didn't contribute financially. Which I think many people don't quite *get.* Just because they didn't know my spouse when he worked his butt off (for a wage).

    On the flip side, life is a million times easier with a house husband. At least he is pulling his weight in that regard. I would just give it some time. I also have personally had to learn to just back off. You can quickly turn into the naggy/pushy wife. But it's a fine line when your spouse's idea of looking for a job is one day of Want Ads (I have been there). I think you just have to be clear with what you expect, and then back off and trust him to follow through. (Good communication). Some of that I have learned the hard way - so just speaking from experience.

  4. whitestripe Says:
    October 12th, 2009 at 11:53 pm 1255391588
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    hmmm - i would say it is probably a similar situation for DF and I - except the roles are reversed. Big Grin of course, I *do* work, five days a week. but the jobs that i do have no real 'future' at the moment, and for several years i have been (as you are probably aware) in limbo, trying to decide what to do but not really making any real effort to. It's not that I am lazy (ok so some of it may be for that reason) but a huge part of it is that i am scared. scared of failing. scared of going out on a limb. scared of doing something different. scared of change. scared of realising that i'm really quite stupid instead of believing people when they tell me i'm smart. Smile but hey, i'll get there eventually. in the mean time, i do exactly what BB does: DF works from 6am til 5pm, and I work from 6am to 1.30pm. So I do all the cooking and cleaning and grocery shopping etc etc.

  5. Broken Arrow Says:
    October 13th, 2009 at 12:43 pm 1255437802
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    What would he do without you? Big Grin

  6. Petunia Says:
    October 13th, 2009 at 01:14 pm 1255439643
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    After I stopped working outside the home, and picked up more of the in home stuff, I wished that Mr H and I had had someone to handle those things while we both worked full time! There's something to be said for someone taking on that part of the partnership. . . although it can be a real challenge if the responsibilities are allocated differently than you had bargained for when you got married.

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