BB and I are slowly evolving into a more comfortable place.
He is still in the market for a job since retiring from baseball. I say "in the market" because "looking" is the wrong word. He gave up after one solid day of craigslist looking. He has pinned all his hopes on an MLB job that was told to him in confidentiality that will open up once a whole long line of firings/rehirings happens that if 1 friend off BB's is hired for then he promises to hire BB. Sounds like a long shot. A super long shot.
Nothing like putting all your eggs in one basket there BB.
And we know nothing until the season ends in late October.
I have given up with the whole BB looking for a job thing. He's like a stone. Always has an answer for why he wont get hired/shouldnt apply for any job but this one that might/might not open up in a month.
Talking/writing about it gets me angry.
In the meantime BB has settled into being a very good house-husband. He runs all my errands for me and does an ok job keeping the house clean. And he is not costing a lot of money either. I must say having him around to take care of house stuff/chores has been great.
When I am not thinking of the goals, responcibilities and money aspect of everything- I am very comfortable having him home unemployed. It has been nice having dinner cooked and all that.
But I do hope to hear one way or another about this MLB job soon.
I am ready to be a real 2 income family for a little bit.
not much to report
October 12th, 2009 at 07:15 pm
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October 12th, 2009 at 08:38 pm 1255379897
Put yourself in his shoes - unless he's the baseball equivalent of Bret Favre, there is the so-oh very sharp change and unknown in his life. He was a baseball player since little boyhood, and now he's not. Its really a rare person who can handle that type of change smoothly without missing a beat.
October 12th, 2009 at 08:38 pm 1255379924
I think a lot of people assume *I* support my husband. But he has contributed a LOT financially to our marriage. & watching the children has saved us significants amount of money. But, I'd personally have little patience for a spouse that didn't contribute financially. Which I think many people don't quite *get.* Just because they didn't know my spouse when he worked his butt off (for a wage).
On the flip side, life is a million times easier with a house husband. At least he is pulling his weight in that regard. I would just give it some time. I also have personally had to learn to just back off. You can quickly turn into the naggy/pushy wife. But it's a fine line when your spouse's idea of looking for a job is one day of Want Ads (I have been there). I think you just have to be clear with what you expect, and then back off and trust him to follow through. (Good communication). Some of that I have learned the hard way - so just speaking from experience.
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